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Partners should schedule separate consultations:
either a FREE 15-Minute Phone Consultation,
or a paid 25-Minute Video Consultation.

When Happily Isn't Ever After

Discernment Counseling

For partners questioning whether to stay in their relationship I also offer discernment counseling to help both partners gain clarity & confidence in making decisions about the future of their relationship.  See below for additional information on session content, structure, fees, and recommended reading.

What is Discernment Counseling?

Discernment counseling is not couple’s therapy because the goal is not immediate change or to solve current problems.  It is intended to guide partners as they decide whether to work on their relationship or choose a different path by exploring each partners’ contributions to the current state of the relationship and the changes that each partner might need to make to solve current problems.
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In-session discussions will focus on the three paths open to you and your partner.

  1. The status quo path: to continue your relationship the way it currently is, to neither separate/divorce nor commit to couple's therapy.
  2. The separation or divorce path: to end your commitment to each other as partners, either temporarily or permanently.
  3. The possible reconciliation path: to take divorce off the table and commit to 6-months of couple’s therapy in an all-out-effort to restore your relationship to health.

How long does discernment counseling last?

Discernment counseling is a brief process (one to five sessions) to help partners decide about the future of their relationship.  The number of sessions will depend on both partner’s willingness to continue the discernment process, and each partner commits to attending only one session at a time.

The initial session will last two hours, and subsequent sessions are approximately 1 hour and 35 minutes.

Sessions are structured as follows: 

 At the start of each session I will meet with both you and your partner together as a couple followed by some time dedicated to work with each of you one-on-one.  After each one-on-one portion of the session, each partner will summarize what he or she is “taking with them” from this discussion and share it with the other partner.  At the end of each session, we will meet all together to review the current status of the discernment process.

Discernment Counseling Fees: 

  • 2-Hour Initial Discernment Counseling Session (2-hours) $695
  • Follow-Up Discernment Counseling Session (approx 1-hour 35min) $550

Recommended Reading:

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Ready to Take the Next Step?

Before starting discernment counseling both you and your partner will need to schedule a separate phone consultation with Dr. Bordieri.  This consultation is free of charge and is intended to help you and your partner determine if discernment counseling is right for you.

Individual therapy is also available if your partner does not want to participate in discernment counseling or if you prefer to explore your needs individually. 

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Dr. Bordieri can provide therapy services to those located in New York, New Jersey, California, and Florida.  If you are located in a different state, you can schedule a consultation to see if you are a candidate for Relationship Coaching with Dr. Bordieri.

We welcome you to schedule a free consultation to explore how therapy might benefit you. 
Therapy is extremely personal, so it is important that you feel comfortable with the therapist you choose.  Consultations offer you the opportunity to ask questions and get a sense of who we are and how we work with clients to help you decide if the fit feels right.
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  • Home
  • Couples
    • Online Hold Me Tight Workshop >
      • Online Hold Me Tight Mini Package
      • 10-Hour Private Hold Me Tight Intensive
    • Private Couple's Intensive Programs
    • Core Relationship Skills Workshop Series >
      • EFT Cycle Tracking, De-Escalation, & Repair Mini Series
      • EFT Negative Cycle Tracking Workshop >
        • VIDEO: EFT Negative Cycle Tracking
      • Strategies for De-Escalating Conflict Workshop >
        • VIDEO: Strategies for De-Escalating Conflict
      • Revisiting & Repairing Conflict Workshop >
        • VIDEO: Revisiting & Repairing Conflict
      • Compromise & Getting Unstuck from Recurring Conflict Workshop >
        • VIDEO: Compromise & Getting Unstuck from Recurring Conflict
      • Building Trust, Forgiveness & Effective Apologies Workshop >
        • VIDEO: Building Trust, Forgiveness & Effective Apologies
      • Enhancing Emotional, Physical & Sexual Intimacy Workshop >
        • VIDEO: Enhancing Emotional, Physical & Sexual Intimacy
      • Core Relationship Skills Series: Coaching Options
    • Premarital Counseling Program
    • Relationship Coaching for Couples >
      • Gottman Relationship Checkup >
        • Gottman Relationship Checkup Package
        • John Gottman - Making Marriage Work
    • Assessments for Couples
    • Discernment Counseling
  • Schedule
    • New Clients
    • Current Clients
    • Events Calendar
  • Services
    • Family Therapy
    • Couple's Therapy
    • Individual Therapy
    • Groups >
      • Core Relationship Skills Workshop Series >
        • EFT Cycle Tracking, de-escalation, & repair mini series
        • EFT Negative Cycle Tracking Workshop
        • Strategies for De-Escalating Conflict Workshop
        • Revisiting & Repairing Conflict Workshop
        • Compromise & Getting Unstuck from Recurring Conflict Workshop
        • Building Trust, Forgiveness & Effective Apologies Workshop
        • Enhancing Emotional, Physical & Sexual Intimacy Workshop
      • Online Hold Me Tight Group
    • Relationship Coaching
  • About Dr. Bordieri
  • Inclusion Statement
  • Recommended Reading