Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Books
Hold Me Tight:Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Why we love it: This best selling book by is based on Emotionally Focused Therapy, developed by Dr Sue Johnson. EFT continues to be the most research validated approach to couple's therapy and the primary model we use in our practice. This book is filled with antidotes from Sue's work with couples to illustrate EFT concepts. The book also include 7 conversation chapters - each includes a "Play & Practice" section at the end with prompts to start each conversation.
Online Hold Me Tight Workshop & Intensives:
For those looking for more in-depth practice and information based on the book, we also offer group workshops, private intensives, and packages for couples, which include structured exercises that build off the "Play and Practice" exercises in the book.
Love Sense covers the 3 stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; the physical and psychological benefits of secure love; and much more. Based on groundbreaking research, Love Sense will change the way we think about love.covers the 3 stages of a relationship & how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions & the logic of love; the physical & psychological benefits of secure love: & more.
For Couples Considering Divorce (Discernment Counseling)
The Divorce Remedy by Michele Weiner Davis is an encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds. In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner-Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship.
Should I Stay or Go? How Controlled Separation (CS) Could Save Your Marriage by Lee Raffel - Until now, couples facing the dilemma of deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage had three options: individual or couples therapy, separation, or divorce. Should I Stay or Go? provides these couples with a fourth option--the Controlled Separation (CS). Should I Stay or Go? explains CS and shows how it can be used as a tool to help couples make the best decision for both partners.
Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce - An internationally renowned authority on children and divorce reveals the latest research-based strategies for helping children survive and thrive before, during, and long after their parent's divorce. The key is proven, emotionally intelligent parenting strategies that promote children's emotional health, resilience, and ability to lead satisfying lives.
Books Based on John Gottman's Research
The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Gottman guides couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. It is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
by research psychologist and couples counselor John Gottman, plumbs the mysteries of love and shares the results of his famous “Love Lab”. Based on laboratory findings, this book shows readers how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship and provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.
The Incredible Years: A Trouble-Shooting Guide for Parents of Children Aged 3-8 Years by Carolyn Webster Stratton. Promoting your child's social, emotional, and language development as well as ability to persist and be successful in school. The book helps parents to build a strong positive relationship foundation before using respectful discipline tools to reduce target behavior problems. The book also focuses on tools for building family relationships and support networks as well as problem solving methods and self-regulation skills to manage stress.
And Baby Makes Three Love Lab™ experts John and Julie Schwartz Gottman teach couples the skills to avoid the pitfalls of parenthood by:
• maintaining intimacy and romance
• replacing a culture of criticism and irritability with appreciation
• preventing post-partum depression
• creating a home environment that nurtures physical, emotional, & mental health, as well as cognitive & behavioral development for your baby